What’s It Like Dating Norwegian Girls?

Dating Norwegian girls can be a special kind of hell if you don’t go in prepared, but it can also be a special kind of heaven if you do. These Scandinavian goddesses are sweet, gorgeous, and open-minded enough to make any guy happy.

There are subtleties of culture, though, and as a foreigner, you are in for some unexpected situations with or without this article.

The goal is to prepare you as much as possible, though, so let’s dive right in and see how it’s like dating Norwegian girls.

They Can Come Across Cold

It’s not just the weather, girls in Norway can be icy cold if you let them.

There are places in the world where your foreigner status alone would give you some major extra points. Norway is not one of them.

This is why I always recommend switching your day game or night game into the online game: joining a dating website like International Cupid might seem lame to some, but it works flawlessly and gives you minimal amounts of headaches.

It’s a proud nation. Also, the living standard is quite high, so foreign men do not get the gold diggers. You can think of that as something positive. At least if she likes you, she likes you for you.

Which brings me to…

Dating Norwegian Girls Is Refreshingly Straightforward

Norwegians are not like Russian women, who are often very coy.

There are few nations that are as no-BS about dating as Norwegians. If she thinks you are cute, she will come over and flirt in most cases. Although, obviously, don’t just rely on that.

It is always nice for the guy to take initiative, that much is internationally true. So don’t just go out, hang around and expect all the Norwegian women to start flocking to flirt with you. You still have more chances if you take the initiative!

As for rejections, though, be prepared to get your fair share of them. The girls can be a bit bitchy, that is the only way to describe it.

But here is the twist: to Norwegians, this is just how life works. There is much less playing games when you are dating Norwegian girls. Love you or hate you, they will let you know.

Expect her to be more assertive than most women in Europe (or even women in general). What can I say, when you look as good as these girls do, you get a free pass for more bitchiness than what is usually OK.

So if you want to meet Norwegian girls online, your best bet is this website – sign up now and make it easier for you to find somebody.

You Will Have A Lot Of Competition

Unlike Russia and Ukraine, where local guys are at best unimpressive and they also smoke and drink themselves to an early grave, Norwegian men are actually very difficult competition.

Tall, light hair, muscular (but not to the point of being freakishly buff), Norwegian guys are some fine specimen, to be honest.

Your competitive edge, though, will be the approach.

Just as the girls can get cold and unpleasant, guys can be very cocky and reluctant to approach women.

Which means that if you present yourself as a friendly foreigner that is genuinely impressed by how beautiful she is (and later on by her conversation and wits), you automatically become more desirable.

Dating Norwegian girls is all about the chase. She will keep you working for it, even after she made it clear that she’s interested. Flatter her ego and you will win her over in no time.

They Are Not Your Sweet Eastern European Babes

Dating Norwegian girls is nothing like dating in Eastern Europe. I might have mentioned it a few times (ok, more than a few times but it should sink in), Norway is a very economically advanced country.

Read: people are rich, the cost of living in Norway in high (and by the way your Oslo getaway might end up costing you much more than you think) and often snobby.

It takes much more to impress a Norwegian girl. She, on the other hand, will have a lot of that ‘I am an independent woman and I don’t have to dress pretty or do anything to impress guys’ attitude.

And yes, being pretty is not the price a girl pays for existing in the world. What does get annoying is how a lot of Norwegian women have impossibly high expectations of guys while hardly bothering at all to follow similar standards.

For instance, great style is almost a must for you but you should tell her that she looks pretty even in that frumpy old sweatshirt.

And It Isn’t A Feminazi-Free Idily Out Here Either

While there is nothing wrong with feminism in itself, feminazis are a species that you really don’t want to deal with when dating Norwegian girls (or any other girls for that matter).

Sadly, you will have to. Most women in Norway are all about ‘social justice’. Actually, scratch that – the entire country loves their social justice laws and programs. They can afford them, which is good.

What isn’t good, though, is that there are hardly any obstacles or discrimination against women yet a lot of them still act as if they were enslaved not a few years ago.

Eastern European girls are traditional and they frown upon third-wave feminism.

Norwegian girls are not always above being feminazis. It comes with wealth and having fewer actual problems, I think.

Dating Norwegian girls is a lot like dodging a bunch of bullets before you find gold. But once you do…

Norwegian Women Are Great Partners

Yes, I actually said partners.

At least 30 or more percent of board level professionals are women. Girls in Norway are encouraged to pursue a career and become independent and financially stable.

They are not used to relying on a guy (or any relationship for that matter) to support them financially. In fact, she will even find it weird and slightly unfair that you would pay for dinner at your first date. Splitting the bill all the way!

And it goes beyond paying for food, of course.

If you guys decide to settle down together, she will be an equal partner in providing for the family. There are no expectations of you, being the guy, to have to take more financial responsibility. In that sense, you can forgive some Norwegian girls for their feminazi tendencies.

Unlike other places in the world, here they actually want equality and all of it, too (even the part where they don’t get free dinner). Which is a great thing in my opinion – not just because it saves you some money early on, but because you actually get a girl with a solid, impressive mentality.

But You Will Have To Do Your Share Of Chores, Too

Yes, that is another aspect of equality. Just as she will be paying for her part of the bill, you will have to do some chores around the house. That is not so bad, though, because you can use it to your advantage.

You say you are not that great with chores but you do love to cook. I mean, it’s probably the oldest trick in the book, offering to cook for a girl to get her back to your place. But it works like charm if you mean it.

Cooking (along with dancing) is one of the most attractive skills you could have as a male on this planet.

First off, you flatter the ‘I am all about equality’ part of her.

Secondly, you get to score a hot date.

Thirdly, she now sees you as boyfriend material and someone that she would actually want to invest in – just don’t lie, she will soon find out if you can’t cook! Which by the way…

The Time And Effort She Invests Matter To Her

This one kind of ties in with the straightforwardness part. Dating Norwegian girls is purposeful. If she chooses to go out with you (read ‘invest time to spend with you’) it is because at least in part she sees you as a potential partner. Enjoy the perspective of ending up with a model-like girl for the long run!

Once you do, you will see that there’s a lot more behind that initial coldness. Norwegian girls end up as very loving partners that treasure equality, but know how to offer a good time – both physically and emotionally. They are a special breed and you should treat them accordingly.

Do you have any personal experiences of dating Norwegian girls that you want to share? Or maybe some hot tips to hack the dating game in Norway? Either way, let us know in the comments.

PS: Online dating options in Norway are scarce, but you can try International Cupid and Tinder.

Arlen Tanner

Arlen is your regular geek-turned-blogger who left the traditional 9 to 5 in the US behind for location independent lifestyle and constant travel. After exploring Eastern Europe first (mainly Hungary, Romania, Bulgaria and Croatia), he settled in the much colder but even more beautiful Scandinavia area since 2016. And he's now here to share with you all the good things about living in the magical 5.

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  1. Iam Geofrey from Uganda East Africa and iam looking for a Norwegian girl friend for serious relationship that will lead us to marriage

  2. Based on what I’ve read, it sounds to me like these foreign girls are condescending, detestable, entitled and VERY snobbish and doesn’t sound like the kinda girls I’d want to make the mistake of associating with or being friends with OR being married to, for that matter. Girls like these probably have massively overinflated egos, yet they wonder why they’re lonely and unloved. I’m not saying all women are like that, but some of them are, REGARDLESS of their nationality and whatnot.

    1. It might seem to be like that, but I wouldn’t go as far as considering them condescending and detestable, on the contrary. Like everywhere, there are bad people here as well, but most of them are great human beings. Give them a chance, you’ll be happy afterwards!

  3. After reading this article, I’m not sold that these women are worth spending time with. These traits are unattractive to men of value. You make it sound like these women don’t need men at all with all their “independent woman” mindset. The way you make it sound like, I’d much rather get with Russian women rather than Norwegian women. We don’t want women who are cold, and not just because of the weather. We want them to be warm, as in warm hearted. We want women to be coy, docile, feminine.

    We don’t want women to be like men. We want women to be like women. Men don’t want to be dodging bullets when we’re with someone we’re seeing. We do enough of that at work. But when we are with women, we want to be dodging MORE bullets!

    Either you got you’re not characterizing these women properly or they need to change if they want to secure a man of value.

    1. The good thing about women and men’s taste in women is that there is a bit of something for everybody. If you don’t like how most Norwegians are, there’s really not a problem: there is still plenty of fish in the sea and options to explore – even in Norway, where not ALL girls are as described in the article.

  4. I randomly came across this website out of curiosity, and as a Norwegian girl I must say some of the things mentioned above could be true but not all. Norwegian women do like independence, we do like doing things on our own because of our strong belief in equality. When it comes to high standards, for myself I think the standards we have are more related to how mature the man is rather than anything else. Norwegian women do prefer mature men.

    Like you can have a fun and playful side, as long as you are still mature and know when to be serious. But all in all Norwegian women think very differently. For myself I feel like I am pretty different from the general Norwegian girl, but that is pretty normal as well. And with Norwegians coming off as cold, that is a very “First time we meet you thing”. Most Norwegians are super warm, friendly and sweet when you get to know them.

    We just like to keep our distance in public, but with people we are close with we are super warm and sweet. And when you are properly dating a Norwegian girl, you have found someone who is loyal and wants to be in a relationship for a long time. Most of my friends are in long lasting relationships because that’s what a lot of Norwegians value, which I think is great! :)

    1. How wonderful and blessed we are to hear from a Norwegian girl, which is after all the subject of the article!

      One point was missed, and one which actually makes me very warm to them – their thoughtfulness and honest naturalness. For an Englishman, along with imagination and humour, comfort is everything, and there is something very familiar and cosy about the Norwegians, like a much-loved favourite pullover, but one of real quality fate rarely delivers, perhaps once in a lifetime if you are lucky.

      Because of my blond hair and beard, Norway is one of the few places abroad I am sometimes mistaken for a local. This has its hazards. When I was 24, I visited Oslo. I was in a museum and the most beautiful girl with hip-length flaxen hair smiled at me and said in a soft voice something in Norwegian. I did not understand a word, and the opportunity passed, alas. I still think of her today.

  5. Haha, I loved reading this article, and especially the comments. It’s always fun to see someone analyzing us norwegians. Too bad the men who read and commented the article found your description scary.
    All I can say, persobalities vary, everywhere.
    Sincerely, Norwegian girl (from the north)

  6. I am a man and the men who dislike Norwegian women just speak for themselves, not for us all. Some of us love our partner trying to be equal and provide financially to the family, so not just men are having a job.

  7. Feminazi as a description for a women who believes in gender equality is disgusting. We don’t need Rush Limbaugh acolytes commenting about how a women should be viewed by potential suitors. I guess your old school values prevent you from seeing the world as it is and how gender roles should not be stereotyped.

  8. I have not met any Norwegian girls in person yet, but I think the types described in this article may be more stereotype than reality. Certainly there must be some who exemplify those attitudes, but how could we be sure those are really the norm? Usually, the norm is a much less intense version of the most extreme representatives, and often represents only a certain region, such as girls from a capitol city, or from a major financial center, rather than women from other regions or cities, whose attitudes and personalities would likely differ significantly. As someone interested in Norwegian culture, and people, I suppose I accept this piece as a valid expression of one man’s dating experiences, and a single piece of a 10,000 piece puzzle, rather than as the end-all of Norwegian women.

    As for the male commenters who felt they could take this article as definitive of Norwegian women, and use it as grounds to judge all their characters, their ignorance, and cultural bias, particularly obvious patriarchy, is clear and unfortunate. Their opinions are easily dismissed. Glad to see the Norwegian women commenters laughing their through those men’s comments. As for the “Femi-Nazi” subtitle, I must ask the author, how serious are you being there, or are just being hyperbolic so you can hit a little higher on the google search list? Is female equality in society offensive to you, or just something you feel privileged enough to mock because you think you can? Maybe it would have been better to tell us readers your one story of your own date who had something to say you felt was inappropriate, instead of type casting? Typing is too easy. For being a professional blogger, you might try to tell us about so more normal girls, instead of only the model types you managed to date. Many girls are very attractive in any society have nothing to prove to a man. They can have their pick. Why would Norwegian models be different? So that is unconvincing.

    The blog article is a halfway decent first start at the topic. Could use more research. Hopefully, more real Norwegian women will comment and set us straight!

  9. RJ, thank you for your input. As I said in the article, I have absolutely nothing against feminism and nothing that I wrote would even suggest that I have anything against equality. On the contrary, I am a firm believer that this is the only way that I believe that society can function. BUT some people end up in the other extreme – as it is the case of misogynists who take it to the extreme, the same can be said about feminazis. There is a huge and important difference between being a feminist (fighting for equal rights, which is admirable) and a feminzai (considering that females are superior to men). I hope this makes it even clearer than it was already in the article.

    Regarding stereotyping – I always agree that this is something that unfortunately has to be done for entertainment values and painting a picture that’s as clear as possible. Surely, not all women are like that and I didn’t claim it to be like that. Ultimately, it’s one’s personal experiences with Norwegian women that influence the way that they perceive them. I haven’t had a chance to meet them all and talk with them all, but the article does sum up the experience that I had during my time in the country.

  10. I have been living and working in the south-east of Norway for two years now, and have dated 4 girls over these years, like real dating, not a one-night-stand.
    It has been very unpleasant so far and those relationships have lasted between 3 months to 8 months.

    Most of the single girls ONLY are looking for one night stand, which involves getting drunk in the weekend at a bar or club and take a guy to their place.
    For many, their friends are first then are colleagues and in the end, is the guy who they are dating that is important; for example, if they have to pick between going to dinner with colleagues or the guy that they are dating, it would be their colleagues.

    Those nice girls who are like an angel are 99.9999% in a relationship with someone from childhood or when they were in high school, so chances that you find someone that wants to maintain a relationship is next to nothing, especially if the girl lives in a big city like Oslo, Drammen or Tønsberg, as they want to try new things and by things I mean new guys.

    I have been living in different countries and travelled in many countries in Europe, and I never had this trouble before I come to Norway.

    I don’t think I can ever fall in love again in Norway.

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