Finnish women are gorgeous, smart, and usually successful. What else?
In this article, we are giving you the ultimate insider look into the world of dating and relationships in Finland. All the details, all the tiny little things, all the hot tips to help you score a Finnish hottie plus what to expect once you do.
Without further ado…
Silence Is Gold, Small Talk Is Ugh
Small talk is a sort of national sport for Americans (says the non-American who is writing this article) but Finnish women are not exactly keen on it.
Their silence is very awkward at first and the lack of chit-chat can be just weird. But the thing is, once you get used to it (should not take too long, you are an adaptable guy), not engaging in the mindless small talk we usually do on dates is actually the best.
If you talk, you have a real, genuine conversation.
The connection is where it’s at. If you stay silent, you get some serious tension going. Or, if there isn’t any chemistry or tension, you sit there awkwardly but you know right off the bat that things will not work out.
No time-wasting, no stupid conversations about that show everybody is watching or how weird the weather has been lately. It does not sound so bad when you think about it, right?
They Are Very Private (Unless You Ask The Right Questions)
Finnish women don’t enjoy sharing personal details on the first few dates. They are cautious with strangers to an extent that you rarely ever see in the West. There are multiple reasons for that, most of them having to do with the Finnish national character.
Much like small talk is not appreciated, oversharing would be a red flag for her if you do it too much. She just won’t.
There is a way around this that does not involve just chatting about your respective jobs. Instead of asking questions all the time (we are told that is what makes a good conversationalist, right?), try to get her to share opinions.
How would you do that?
By sharing yours first. Make statements.
Say you are at a restaurant. You could do something like ‘Why is it that everything even remotely healthy on the menu always tastes awful?’ To which she would probably react by disagreeing.
And there you have it, a full-on conversation that does not make her uncomfortable but still allows for some tension. Playful arguments are one of the best conversation techniques to use on Finnish women.
Being Minority Is Actually Great
Finland is a country of rich tall white people, yet surprisingly being brown or black is an advantage in the dating game. Finns have this very pronounced liberal guilt over once discriminating against minorities.
There is also the refugee crisis which most people don’t feel is being handled fairly so – even more guilt over their privilege.
Black and brown men get a larger margin of error because Finnish women overcompensate for that guilt (which I think is being installed in society by the media).
If you are an ethnic man, don’t be afraid to approach girls and don’t think you would get more rejections for the colour of your skin. In fact, you might actually get more girls than your non-minority friends.
Finnish Women Look Russian (But Don’t Act Russian)
Finnish women look incredibly Eastern European.
Compared to other girls in Scandinavia, they are even blonder, slimmer, and fairer. You know, scratch slimmer actually. There are a lot of skinny runway models that come from Finland but the national average is not on the slim side.
Finland has been dealing with some serious obesity problems in recent years. They have been handling it well, more or less, with a lot of community exercise and nutrition education programs happening throughout the country.
However, there are still a lot of obese people (which obviously includes obese girls).
Don’t go in expecting a nation of heroin chic women, that is all I am saying.
Even though Finnish women look almost Slavic, they don’t exactly share all the values and the mindset of, say, Russian girls.
Finland is a very rich and well-developed country where most women almost frown upon the idea of just being housewives. There is a lot expected from a girl and that starts at a very young age – girls are expected to perform great at school, get into a good uni, become independent and provide for themselves as soon as they are out of college etc. Family values have been taking a back seat in recent years.
That being said, Finns put a lot of value on maintaining good relationships.
Even though they tend to get married later on in life now, Finnish women are still looking for a long-term partner rather than a casual hook-up buddy. In that sense, yes, they kind of think like Eastern Europeans but not totally.
The dating period before marriage is virtually the same as in any other country in the West so don’t expect to just find a bride there.
Tell Her About Your Summer
You know where Finland is, right?
They get awfully long winters that much up north. Summer is short and sunny days are very few. That is a part of the reason why so many Finns suffer from depression, which often starts as season affective disorder that…well, when the season that affects you lasts for the most part of the year, I guess it kind of turns into a full-blown depression. But so much for mental disorders.
Spending at least a week (but usually more like 10 days to two weeks) at a sunny, tourist-y beach resort is the rule for Finnish people. It is not seen as treating yourself but rather as a necessity.
If you come from somewhere where you had the beach and nice weather almost year-round you would be surprised at how much she loves to hear that.
That is one form of turning the weather conversation into something a bit more personal. Tell her about home, about where you liked to go as a kid, how you would spend your summers etc. You will find it impresses her more than how successful you are.
I’m telling you, there is nothing as valuable as a sunny day for Finnish women. And also, if you are in Finland while the weather is good definitely ask her out to a picnic. There is virtually 0% chance that she would turn that down.
They Don’t Dress Out Of A Skrillex Video
Contrary to what we are led to believe, Finnish women are not all hipsters/androgynous fashion aficionados.
Most of them really enjoy doing hair and makeup and they dress quite feminine. It is true that most people (as in, not just most girls) embrace wearing comfortable clothes. There is nothing wrong with that, really.
You have to prioritize staying warm when you live in that climate. Other than that, Finnish girls do love to show off their curves, to look put together, to attract guy’s looks on the street. Maybe not to the extent that Latinas do but they are still pretty close.
Day Game With Finnish Women Is Hit-Or-Miss
This would depend on how good you are at day game in the first place, of course, but generally speaking, you are much better off trying at night.
It is true that Finnish clubs can get really expensive (the living standard here is very high, even compared to the States or to the more developed European countries). The good thing is that local men hardly ever approach girls.
Your chance to stand out is to simply try. No girl likes to be forced to make the first move but you would notice that Finnish women are masters of the ‘getting you to come over’ game. Glances, smiles, winks, you name it, she will do it if she likes you.
Speaking of clubs, buying drinks for girls is not really that popular out here.
Even if she wants to flirt/make out/hook up with you, she might not accept the drink offer. Two reasons for that: safety and attachment to equality. First off, a lot of girls have been led to almost fear guys. women are still extra cautious here.
Nobody would like to get roofied in the club, right?
Secondly, Finnish women are all about independence.
They enjoy the occasional act of chivalry but actually buying drinks (or anything that is not a gift for her birthday) for her would make her uncomfortable.
Finally, They Are Not As Scary As They Look
Granted, Finnish women are very attractive but they are also friendlier than you think. Fear not to approach them!