What comes to mind when you think of Finnish girls? Blonde hotties? Saunas? Long nights by the fire? Yes, pretty much every guy on Earth (except those who actually know Finnish girls) has that idea.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but real life Finnish girls are not (always) your adult-style fantasy. Now let me give you a quick 101 about Finnish women.
They Are Not Hyper-Feminine (And You Will Be Thankful For That)
I hope you did not expect girly girls in Finland. That is not what you are going to get. Finnish women are, in fact, much lower maintenance than some guys I have met.
Don’t expect them to look like they came fresh out of a Scandinavian street style blog. Hipster-y attire and bold haircuts are not the norm. In fact, they are pretty rare although nobody is surprised to see a girl wear her hair in a weird way or dye it a funky colour.
Remember that one time you dated a super high-maintenance girl? The one that would take hours to get ready and was always late. Some of these women are simply huge clutzes.
Most are self-obsessed, arrogant, and way too into the way they look. That is exactly what you are not getting in Finland.
Finnish women are very casual about appearances. It is a friendly place, no matter how you look (more on that a little later). You see a lot more people with visible tattoos and piercings as it is less of a stigma than say, Russia.
There are also the funky haircuts and the notoriously extravagant streetwear. For the most part, though, it is warm jackets and bundling up in huge scarves. Let’s not forget exactly how far up North Finland is.
The niceness of your hair extensions and how glossy your lip gloss is suddenly lose importance when it is that cold.
Finnish Girls Are Open To Dating Foreigners
Another upside of Finnish women being so open-minded is they are happy to date a person from a different culture, a different religion, or a different race. Brown and black men might even have an advantage in Finland.
They are exotic in a nation of very tall and very blonde people. And exotic is always good.
That being said, there is a growing community of African and Arabian immigrants. So far the country has been doing well, dealing with the racial tensions. Finns have managed to stay remarkably open and accommodating.
You can’t be sure how things will look like in a couple of years, though. For one, other races will definitely stop being so novel. Take advantage while you can!
And if you want to make it as easy as possible, don’t hesitate to try International Cupid – the best place right now for meeting Finnish girls.
They Are Trusting And Down To Earth
This one is not just for the women. Finnish people, in general, are very sweet, very polite, and sometimes a little gullible. As a guy in Finland, that means women will not have an issue coming back to your place.
That is absolutely not the case in other parts of the world. But it isn’t just the physical, either.
In all aspects of life, Finns are super friendly. Most Finnish girls, even those who look like future Victoria Secret models, are easy to approach and will not cut your day game in Helsinki off.
You Might Have Trouble Establishing A Deeper Connection
Chatting up girls on the street might be fun but how do you get to a date (or a relationship)? It might be trickier than you think.
As friendly and approachable as Finnish women are at first, getting them to give you their number or commit to a date is a whole different story. Why?
Well, they are not exactly upfront about their opinion of you. She might be all smiles when you guys first meet but that does not promise anything. Just a side note here, that is the general rule for all girls (and all human beings, for that matter).
Being nice does not entitle you to everything. But my point about Finnish girls is different.
They can be…flaky. They might lead you on out of politeness. A typical mindset towards day game is ‘Well, it took him a lot of courage to come up to me, I can’t be a jerk.’
See how that doesn’t mean she is interested? Exactly my point. So how do you escape that? The answer is surprisingly obvious.
The Uncomfortable Truth About Chatting Up Girls
This is something I have always wanted to say and in the context of Finnish women, it is 100% true. Getting someone to talk to you and be nice to you is no guarantee of success. Well, maybe excluding incredibly religious nations where this would be disrespectful.
A bit of flash psychology that you already know of.
People smile when they are nervous.
People make jokes when they are nervous.
People (and women in particular) hate confrontation. There are very few Finnish girls that would be nice and clear about their lack of interest. So really, when you are spending your day chatting girls up it is mostly going to be you getting:
- Fake names
- Fake phone numbers
- “Yeah, maybe I will add you on Facebook”
And other unproductive stuff like that. Or…
Online Dating… or Alcohol
Or, in other words, you need a social lubricant. At the end of the day, we are all desperate for attention. Call it companionship instead of attention and you have yourself a nice Instragrammable quote. Whatever floats your boat.
The single easiest way to meet Finnish women is at clubs and bars. Here is where the open-mindedness is in full swing. There is just something about that ethanol.
Bear in mind that drinks are pricey in Finland (which may be a good thing or else a lot more people would have alcohol problems here) so getting girls…could also get pricey?
Your other option is dating sites and apps.
Tinder and International Cupid are the obvious favorites. They’re quick, they’re convenient. I personally love using online dating when I am traveling.
It is a breath of fresh air. New people, and an entirely new dating culture for you to explore.
No, but as reserved as Finnish girls might be in real life, they get down to business real quick online.
One-night stands are the norm for both online dating and alcohol-related hook-ups. But don’t think you will fool her with that ‘Yeah, condoms don’t fit me right.’
Safety comes first and Finnish education apparently did a great job here. Which brings me to the last important question people have:
Are They Really That Promiscuous?
I have a problem with this statement on many levels. It’s illogical, for starters. I mean, who are you comparing Finnish girls to? If it is women who stay celibate until marriage then of course and by a lot.
But I am assuming (based on that little fantasy everyone has about Finnish women) that you yourself are not waiting until marriage. You want to do the wild thing now, right?
Fine, well, so do women in Finland.
I find a weird little parallel between the promiscuity issue and the looks. You see, people in Finland are just not that bothered. It makes it really hard for people like me to generalise their opinions and attitudes for ‘ultimate guide to’ articles.
Generally speaking, yes, Finnish girls are a little ‘easier’ if you compare them to other Europeans (especially in the East). The cool thing about them is even if they don’t sleep around, they will not:
- Judge and gossip about girls who do
- Shame you for not seeking a long-term relationship
- Be backward when it comes to intimacy or lack knowledge (out of some ‘moral reasons’)
Relationships Are Tricky, Though
When are they not?
Finnish women are gorgeous, down to Earth, and very open-minded. They are not always wifey material, though.
Finns marry older and tend to prioritise their careers. Biologically, that is a stupid decision (a pregnant 40-year-old will experience a higher risk of complications).
Culturally, it is right.
We are all aware of the ‘millennial problems’. They don’t bypass even relatively rich countries like Finland.
The cool thing about Finland’s young people, though, is they are not full of themselves. They realise they have more growing up to do. This is particularly true for the girls (who are more in touch with themselves then guys will ever be).
It’s not easy to get them to commit. And she will be painfully nice when she informs you of that. You can’t be mad at that. And it is a bit frustrating. On the upside, open-mindedness, and super nice women.
I’m sure you will survive.